Faced with the fact that your loved one has gone from your happy home and you're left wondering how do I get my ex back is not a very good situation to be in. Chances are the solution you are planning to use probably wont work and may even drive your ex so far away that you will never get them back.

Most of us make up huge stories about another person -- consider how many times you've gone over a tense or upsetting conversation in your head knowing for sure what the other person meant. Sometimes our conclusions are incorrect and based only on our own projections. So instead of believing your…

Without good communication, most of us think our assumptions about what the other person is thinking are correct. Often these assumptions are based on projections - unconscious thoughts or feelings that we "project" onto the other person.

Ask questions to help you understand the other person's perspective. Let the other person know when you've made an assumption and ask for clarification.